Have you ever felt really inspired by a person around you? Or maybe a movie-star? Have you ever felt like you admired the drive for someones competition or the way somebody interacted with people?
Today, we will talk about becoming the person that inspires you. Today, we will talk about how important observation can be for our very own progress.
My number one tip: Difficulties to change? Try this!
1. Becoming the observer - stop being judgemental but use observing as a source of information
One of the key ingredients to becoming a greater self is to become good at observing. Usually, what we as humans tend to do is observing our surroundings. We tend to observe especially people and put labels on them.
A huge step towards your own progress is to stop putting on those labels and instead picking the right values and integrate them into your personality. We dont observe to judge or feel superior, we observe to learn.
2. Learn by the mistakes of other people - use their negativity as a reminder how you want to be different!
In the end, to learn we have to make use of our past experiences wisely. But it is not just us that can teach us such experiences, but other people as well.
The next time you see a person behaving in a rude way, observe what is actually happening. Then, reflect upon yourself. Be brutally honest how you would have dealt with that situation.
If you disagree with how this person handled this situation, think about a better solution.
Now every time in the future as you see someone dealing with difficulty and you disagree with their way of doing so, you can actually use that as a reminder for yourself.
3. Get rolemodels - adapt their great values!
"Good artists copy; great artists steal." - Pablo Picasso
There is probably someone out there for you that has already reached what you want to accomplish so badly. Now for you, this means finding that person and learning from your master.
A lot of times, if we want to pursue different areas of life, this will not come down to only one person. In my case, I have several role-models that I try to learn from. A rolemodel can be anyone.
Me personally for example, I am incredibly inspired by Will Smith. The way he talks, moves, the vibe he suggests, his workethic. Another one of my rolemodels is Arnold-Schwarzenegger. Even tho I am not into body-building (I love fitness, but not that much muscle mass :P), I deeply admire his workethic. His sheer determination to get to where he wants, no matter what the price.
And even a close friend of mine is a great rolemodel for me. He has a way of talking to and taking care of the people around him that is very inspiring to me. It is like he has an incredible skill of 'breaking through' to strangers, parents, relatives and so on.
Once we found our rolemodels, we observe and adopt what is useful and make that our own.
4. Reflecting on our weaknesses and using the strength of other people where we lack
We all have our weaknesses. But because we fail, because we experience weakness does not mean we are a failure. We simply acknowledge our weakness and work turn it into a strength.
It is important that we reflect on ourselves. What are really bad values and habits that we are representing? What are we weak at?
Once we identified our weakness, we start looking for what I call 'a master'. A person that represents strength in this area. We observe and learn from our master, until we are able to turn our weakness into a strength.
I used to be really bad at social situations. I was never talking to strangers and felt weird and full of anxiety. I still am not a master of social situations, but im on the road of becoming so. How is that possible? I simply become inspired by people that are great at it and practice becoming that.
5. Impersonate someone else until you become them
It can be very hard to change the way that we are, as our nature suggests us to stay the same. (=A natural way of securing our survival, the logic is 'what kept us alive so far, will work in the future')
A great way to get around that brick-wall that is your mind telling you not to change, is to 'act'. Act as if you were someone else. Actively tell yourself that you are just acting like you were fearless. Acting like you were that person that would absolutely do a thing like that.
Act, until you become.
also check out:
Habits - our number one tool to fulfill our goals
Dealing with defeat in competition
How not to care what people think about you
managing huge amounts of work - never getting overwhelmed by sheer amount
Ego - Understanding the most important concept about our self
Changing your life - how to start
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